Writings of a teachermom, choosing to stay home with her kids, while loathing all domestic responsibilities! In late Aug. 2008, I was diagnosed with Triple Negative breast cancer. After surgery, chemo and radiation, I was given theall clear. However, in the late summer of 2008, I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, which metasticized to other areas.

Sunday, December 03, 2006

"Mom, can you please be quiet. I'm trying to do my math!"

Seems to me that if my son willingly spends almost 2 hours doing addition and subtraction problems, almost all correctly, at home........

then at school, he could probably do more than count a few dots and circle the correct number.

Apparently his teacher doesn't think so....at least not until the end of the year when the kindergarteners will start addition and subtraction

I'm hoping the principal will have a different outlook.

Differentiated Instruction....ever hear of it??????


At 10:43 PM, Blogger LH said...

Oh gosh. The school journey begins. And it really doesn't end for a long time. I hope you find someone thrilling for Cameron next year. He would be so fun to teach.

At 4:57 AM, Blogger cg said...

Cari, what do think of Montessori schools? I just think that Cam might be a good candidate

At 7:00 AM, Anonymous dana said...

Yes....and being a teacher in NJ (where they STRESS it)...it is hard when other schools don't do the same thing!!

At 8:32 AM, Blogger Jaye said...

It's amazing seeing the different standards of schooling throughout the country. We're at the opposite end of the spectrum, though. My roommate's 6 year old daughter (she'll be 7 in two weeks), is in first grade and she is having a lot of trouble with reading. They came from VA, and the transition to NJ schools has been extremely difficult for her. Thankfully, the teacher has been working with her and we have a large network of good friends who are teachers that are giving her and her mother help. I've been reading to her and pointing out word families ("at" family, "ould" family, etc), asking questions about the words, having her point out words that look similar ("you", "your", etc.), and have a reading nook set up in our den for her. She gets quite discouraged at times; even at a young age, she puts a lot of pressure upon herself to perform, instead of allowing herself the time it takes to learn. She's improving, though (lots of prayer has helped!), and that's a good thing.

That being said, perhaps it's time to look at a different school, to stave off the boredom factor that will eventually set in (like cg said).

At 11:39 AM, Blogger Kimberly said...

Homeschooling is always an option! *wink wink*
But, seriously, don't downplay the important steps you can take at home with him...even when you find the right school to challenge and excite him about learning, he'll still have other interests that he'll want to pursue outside of school and he'll need your help in doing that.
That's what parenting is all about! Leading our children in the way they should go.
We'll keep it in our prayers here!!

At 12:59 PM, Blogger L said...

Hey Cari- Still playing phone tag. Keep calling and we'll connect soon. Meanwhile, I'm checking the ed law and also hope you made an appt with teacher and principal- next step is district level. My teacher colleague at Richfield had to go to the district level for her daughter (M. was just like Cameron in K)

At 1:12 PM, Blogger Cari said...

And yet I'm not even asking her to TEACH him anything. I merely asked if she could give him some +/- worksheets to do instead of the counting ones. And I'd go over it with him at home. She said the materials she has are for the end of the year when they do it as a class. But that I could go to Target and purchase my own workbook to do with him at home...along with a bunch of other suggestions for things I can do at home. The thing is, I do stuff at home already...that's how he knows what he knows. I just would prefer to have him continue progressing at school. If nothing else happens, at the very least, we'll pull him from all day (which we pay for) and put him in 1/2 day, and I'll do even more at home. We're also considering other schools.

At 1:14 PM, Blogger Cari said...

I tried to look up the law, and there's nothing about challenging kids that I could see...at least not in Minnesota.

At 1:52 PM, Blogger Jaye said...

I really can't believe that you have to go to the district level just to get the teacher to give your son MORE work! Does his teacher know that you're also a teacher and that you know how to teach your child? Man, oh man, that's crazy. I do like New Jersey....

I'll pray about the situation, too.

At 2:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Now that is just plain stupid!

If the kid can do math, let him, and don't hold him back!

For the love of Mike! Why can't schools encourage excellence instead of mediocracy?

Ok... *deep breath*...calming down...

At 10:20 PM, Blogger Cari said...

lh, so are you coming here to teach my son????

cg, I've never really looked into Montessori's before. Maybe I'll check that out. Might have to do some serious convincing of my hubby, though.

dana, And Minnesota seems to think they're the tops in education. I beg to differ based on my experiences here.

Based on my teaching experience in NJ, I have to say that they were tops. The students in my honors clcass at my MN charter school were equal to the regular level kids at my NJ school. When my sister moved from Indiana to NJ, she kept her daughter back one year..as she struggled somewhat in Indiana. It was probably the best thing she did, considering the high expectations of NJ schools. I know your sister cringes when I talk about Cameron needing more in Kindergarten....says I'm like one of "those parents" from her school in Cherry Hill, but I really feel I'm right this time. And good for you for helping out your friend. Early reading intervention is so vital to future academic success!

Unless my child was unsafe in his school, I don't think I'd ever homeschool. Too hard with 3 kids, and as a school teacher, I do feel that there is so much to gain from a classroom environment that involves more than just gaining content knowledge. Thanks for the prayers.

YEs, she knows I'm a teacher. I signed up to volunteer in her class, where I thought I'd be helping kids. Instead, I had to staple bookorders and cut paper strips to make Christmas Countdown chains. Sigh.

So much depends on the teacher...not necessarily the school. I worked at an excellent middle school in NJ, but there were some teachers I would never want my child to have. On the flip side, there were MARVELOUS teachers as well! I know so many great teachers in my grad classes and who I'm friends with. That's why I'm trying to set up a meeting with the principal...to see if the issue is with the teacher or school policy. Then we'll know how to proceed. As a public school teacher, I know the struggles. Having so many kids as so many levels is HARD to deal with. But schools should provide the support needed. And like I said, I'm not asking her to teach him. I really don't think I'm asking too much.

At 10:26 PM, Blogger Cari said...

I guess what is also upsetting me is that I feel like a failure. Finding the right school for Cameron was my job. Education is my expertise, medicine is my husband's. So he told me he trusted my judgement. And I chose the local public school, where the principal told me my son would be challenged (that principal is no longer there), where I was told they did balanced literacy and my neighbor said the classrooms were diverse. Plus,it's free, and he gets picked up by a bus right in front of our house. My husband and I agreed that it's just kindergarten, and we moved to this town, paying a lot more for our house, because of the schools, so we should at least try the public school...plus I'm a public school teacher and have loved some of the public schools I've taught in. And despite what I thought was best for Cameron, I now feel like I've failed...mainly my husband's trust of my educational decisions for our children. Sigh.

At 5:02 AM, Blogger cg said...

Ack Cari, I dont think you failed. you made the best decision you could with the information you had at that time. SO if the information to your disposal changes, you have to re evaluate your situation, not your original decision.

At 7:47 AM, Blogger Jaye said...

You cannot and should not blame yourself for being misled by the information given to you. You absolutely did NOT fail! Just keep praying, something will work out. And keep working with Cameron - if he's that eager to learn, teach him! My kids both bugged me to put them in school before they were of age to go to Kindergarten (so into private school they went!). We worked outside of class, but then again, we live in NJ, in the very district where you taught, so I really didn't have problems with the teachers giving my girls what they needed to keep them challenged (for the most part). They continue to excel, and I know that as you keep working with Cameron (and subsequently his siblings), they will excel, despite the lack of support in the school.

I do, however, agree with Eric - makes my head spin when things like this happen!


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